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Life is too short to leave love unspoken
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Life is too short to leave love unspoken

February 13, 2018February 16, 2018

Yesterday my husband had a pretty awful day.

Yesterday while at work, a man died in his arms.

Yesterday a wife said goodbye to her husband as he went to meet mine – not knowing that was the last time she would see him.

Yesterday a man went about his day, then without warning his heart stopped and he was gone despite the frantic efforts of those around him.

Yesterday the worlds of a few were altered forever.

Tomorrow some will declare their undying love.

Tomorrow others will state that Valentine’s day is not the day for such declarations.

Tomorrow a wife will mourn her husband while others wholeheartedly embrace a day designed to celebrate love and others mock it.

Whatever your views are of Valentine’s day just remember that life is short.

Never hold back on telling those you love how you feel about them, because you never know whether it will be your last chance or not.

 

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8 comments on “Life is too short to leave love unspoken”

  1. Tess Hanlon says:
    February 13, 2018 at 8:39 am

    Beautifully said Zinta. Thanks for the reminder.

    1. Zinta says:
      February 13, 2018 at 2:14 pm

      Thanks for reading and commenting. Sometimes we all need these reminders…

  2. Cameron Aggs says:
    February 13, 2018 at 5:07 pm

    A powerful reminder. I hope your hubby is doing okay. Life is short and precious to be sure.

    1. Zinta says:
      February 13, 2018 at 8:48 pm

      Thanks Cam. Craig has spoken to a friend who is an ambo and that gave him added comfort to know that there was nothing else he (or anyone else) could’ve done. It has definitely reminded us to be grateful for life itself!

  3. Bec Senyard says:
    February 13, 2018 at 8:39 pm

    Beautifully written. I had to share it on my Facebook page. Love your blog and your way with words Zinta. Sending love to Harry, that wife who has lost her partner and to you as well. xx

    1. Zinta says:
      February 13, 2018 at 8:51 pm

      Thanks for reading, sharing and commenting Bec! Coming from you it means so much. I just wanted to remind others to stop and be grateful – yesterday’s events certainly made us do just that. Big love to you and your family!

  4. Fran Keyes says:
    February 14, 2018 at 4:07 pm

    Hi Zinta. A beautiful piece of writing and your words resounded with me. In my line of work what your husband went through yesterday, if he is not a trained medical professional and it happened because he just was there, it is important that he can process it in a way that he’s comfortable with. It may not effect him now or in a week but it may manifest at some future time when he least expects it. Don’t underestimate the effect that type of experience can have on someone. Even a strong happy man. Your post is another reminder to be grateful for each day we get. Thank you.

    1. Zinta says:
      February 14, 2018 at 9:56 pm

      Thanks Fran! Hubby and I are completely aware that he might have a “delayed” reaction to the event, but for now he has spoken to an ambo mate who has assured him that there was noting he (or anyone else far more experienced) could’ve done and that alone has given him some comfort. Thanks for your concern. We have a tendency to take the “negative” and see the positives so we too are grateful for the reminder it was to us not to take life for granted!

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