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The art of dealing with the unexpected

the art of dealing with the unexpected

The art of managing emotions
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The art of managing emotions

January 30, 2019January 30, 2019

I felt the breath catch in the back of my throat as I read the words out aloud:

“I love art, because it lets me express my feelings – sometimes sadness, sometimes frustration, sometimes happiness, sometimes anger. When I show it to my parents it makes me feel heard even when they don’t understand”

These were the words our 11-year-old daughter, Teja included in her application for a leadership position as arts captain at her primary school.

Wow.

Her words were profound and confronting all at once.

All I could think was that I had failed her. I had failed to see what she had been showing me, failed to understand what she was communicating, failed to hear her…

But as I held her and continued to take in the rest of her presentation, I could see the diversity of her drawings and paintings. Some were bright and colourful, cartoon-like, made-up aliens; others a collage of eyes and mouths and fractured faces. Some bejewelled with joyful textures and feathers; others drawn and shaded carefully in serene still life.

Then I realised her words were not about my failures, but about her process.

She had found a way.

A way to express the things that are hard to put into words. To use the energy of an emotion to create a statement piece. To work frustration, sadness and anger out of her fingertips and onto a page in a way that made her felt heard, even if no one else understood.

And in that moment, she took my breath away.

We all have to find our way.

Our way – of managing the emotions that bubble up within us each time we face the tough stuff in life. If we don’t, we risk losing the battle and losing sight of the truly important things in life.

For me – much to the annoyance of those who live with and work with me – it is to talk things out. I am often told that I talk too much! Perhaps I should take up art instead!!

So, tell me – I genuinely want to know – what is your way?

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I am Zinta Harris. I live in Brisbane, Australia with my husband of 25 years, Craig (known by most as Harry) and our two children Teja and Zigi. I am a specialist wills and estates lawyer by day and inspiration seeker by night. I help Australian families navigate the legal fallout after the loss of a loved one in a calm and compassionate way. My mood is better after a daily double shot coffee and a glass or two of bubbles. I get my energy from people. My superpower is encouraging others. It is my sincere hope that this blog will encourage you. I hope it gives you a chance to chime in with your experience or to feel part of a community that has walked through a valley and made it through. Read about me

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